Ok, let me start this off by saying that SURE there are days when one of my kids will work just a little bit harder than the others to "test my patience". It happens. OH BOY... DOES IT HAPPEN!
And yes, there are some days when one of my kids will tend to act just a little bit sweeter than the others.
Although this one hasn't been happening a lot BUT it has been known to happen, like I said.
Yep, there are some days when one of my kids will perform just a little bit better than the others with school work.
Uh Huh.
Do I love that kid more than the others? Even on those specific days?
NO!
I love all 3 (soon to be 4) rugrats (said with LOVE) just the same.
A LOT...
A WHOLE LOT...
Even more than the CAT! (LOL!)
A WHOLE LOT...
Even more than the CAT! (LOL!)
I can't imagine thinking differently.
What the heck are you rambling about, Linda??
Well, I stumbled upon this post on Babble yesterday ...
Shocking?
What are your thoughts?
Do you love one of your kids more than the other?
What if the kids grow up to read your blog?
How would they feel? Well, how would the LESS LOVED ONE feel?
Things that make me go hmmm...
I've been the child that knows it isn't loved as much as the other. Granted, I was the child that eventually grew to realize I wasn't loved in any real way at all (http://unhandicapping.com/a-life-of-emotional-abuse-part-one/) but first I just knew, for a hundred reasons far less direct at first than it openly being said so, that I was loved less than my sister. One of the worst parts is that it's impossible for the child to not feel at fault. The parent obviously can love more....just not them.
No matter what the rationale for thinking it, there is no reason to allow yourself to act on it, and no excuse for saying it. No child should have to feel that there is a modifier on the love they should be able to trust as unconditional.